Sex dating rules
If you are not promiscuous or such lifestyles don’t align with your values, that is fine, but please don’t judge.
Respectfully acknowledge your different values so you can part ways and each find someone more in line with your values I share this here with the hope that it may help folks find comfort when dating and entering into a new relationship...
Also, I hate that sexual double-standard where it's implied that women "give" sex to men. I think it's up to the two folks to determine how long they can date w/o hitting the sheets. I think it's up to the two folks to determine how long they can date w/o hitting the sheets.
Sex should be equal - two people wanting to be intimate with each other. To that I say...'Don't give away the salami for free'. "Why do I have to buy the cow if I am getting the milk for free? "Why do I have to buy the BULL if I am getting the beef for free? To that I say...'Don't give away the salami for free'. "Why do I have to buy the cow if I am getting the milk for free? "Why do I have to buy the BULL if I am getting the beef for free?
This is quite different from "role model" concepts of early development which emphasize the same-sex parent. One implication for men is that they should choose woman as mothers whose father they like, because their sons are going to resemble him in a lot of ways.
And it's not to deny the possible importance of other childhood experiences. In terms of dating, people tend to pair up with those who either further or complement their scripts, the former being the one-sided kind of relationship.
With that in mind, opening up and getting to know someone does take a certain amount of patience.
Assess each new partner as an individual, and stay keenly connected with how you experience yourself while in his or her presence.
In my experience treating couples and individuals, many hope that if they "play the game" correctly, their prince or princess will be the prize.
But because playing a game necessarily translates into masking your authentic self, these rules cannot deliver the kind of genuine partnership on which true love is built.
Instead, following bogus rules when it comes to dating invariably leads to one of two ill-fated consequences: Playing the game culminates in a kind of bait-and-switch in which one member of the new couple tends to feel duped; or one person continues to operate behind a façade so that he or she never becomes fully known by a partner and ends up locked in a one-sided relationship. It is important to have boundaries and to not reveal more or do more than you are completely comfortable with.
Meeting someone new from such an authentic place within myself was the best decision I could possibly have made. I wanted to connect with someone genuinely and truly and that's exactly what happened.
Finally, I am comfortable in my own skin and this makes it easier for me to connect with others.