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This was only relative though: both men and women reported a desire for long-term mating, and most men in this dating context did choose a long-term mating orientation.
This suggests that a speed-dating context is one that generally attracts people pursuing long-term mating tactics (or at least report that they do! Sociosexuality and shyness did a better job predicting popularity in this speed dating context than the personality traits extraversion and neuroticism, which are correlated with sociosexuality and shyness, respectively (sociosexuality with extraversion, shyness with neuroticism).
To women, being desired for simply having a pulse is an insult, and I refuse to believe that most men don't feel the same way.
Interesting article and study overall but in the end, it seems the conclusion is simply that dating is a numbers game, and whether it be Speed Dating or some other means, it's a matter of making enough interactions (meeting new people) to at some point find someone you see some potential with.
The researchers raise the possibility that a male's sociosexuality may indicate his history of successful mating experiences or mating skills (i.e., high mating intelligence), and that this is attractive to women.
Another reason may be that those with a short-term mating orientation may have been more extraverted, and their extraverted behaviors were noticed and remembered more.
Speed Dating is great from the perspective that you can meet many people in a short period of time, which makes it much more time efficient than many other dating methods.
The chances of a women mating increased if their partner had a short-term mating orientation, and the chances of a man mating increased if their partner had a long-term mating orientation. It's been in my experience that most women want a man who "is sweet and will treat them with respect and as equals" and yet they will fall head over heels for shallow men simply because they're exciting and a challenege and they believe they can save the guy from his immoral ways.Most dates don't turn into anything, which means that a man who is way too serious (some would say desperate) makes a woman feel like she's crushing his hopes and dreams if she rejects him.Most people don't want to be put in that situation.I've already witnesses women saying one thing and chasing after the complete opposite and it simply goes back to the age old question: "What the hell do women want?" I think the study itself is confounded as it shows quantitave evidence that the majority of women go speed-dating to seek a long-term partner, but then rate the more sociosexual males higher.Other research has shown that Extraverts do better than introverts in a rapid mating context such as speed dating (Luo & Zhang, 2009; also see : the more shy the man appeared, the less popular the man.The researchers suggest that this may be due to traditional male sex roles, which require men to be assertive and proactive in the mating domain, skills that may not come as easily to shy guys.As the researchers note, this finding is consistent with the idea that highly popular people are thought to be more careful in their choices while unpopular people are thought to be more indiscriminative (see Penke et al., 2007). They found that the chances of mating (i.e., having sex) with a speed-dating partner was 6%, whereas the chances of relating (i.e.ending up in a long-term relationship) with a speed-dating partner was 4%.There's some new research on speed dating, coming from researchers in Germany (Asendorpf, Penke, and Back, in press).They set up a speed-dating event and invited a total of 382 people (190 men and 192 women) who were aged 18-54 to participate.